The
Tao Of Dating
Free Sample #1
"The
Three C's of Optimal Venues"
Three cardinal characteristics determine whether or not a
venue is optimal for meeting women (and by extension, people
in general):
Conversation-friendliness:
Your main tool of contact and communication is your voice.
So ask yourself whether a particular venue is suitable for
carrying on a conversation. Quieter places are generally better.
Loud clubs and bars generally are not, but sometimes their
quieter patios or balconies can work. Bookstores and coffee
shops are much better.
Community:
There is pre-existing rapport when some common thread
of interest connects a group together. The more specific the
thread and the greater effort people have made to come to
the venue, the stronger the rapport, and the easier time you
will have making contact. Talking to people watching a game
at a bar is likely to be a fleeting interaction, whereas the
people you meet at a conference in Buenos Aires on emperor
penguins may become lifelong friends.
Continuity:
Stationary people are easier to meet than those in
motion. The longer people tend to stay at a given venue, the
easier it is to meet them. Continuity can also develop over
longer periods of time. There is built-in familiarity with
someone whom you see three times a week at the gym which makes
it easier to meet her.
Apply
the 3 C's to the various places you spend time over the course
of a week, and then decide to spend more of your time at the
places that score higher on this scale. Every minute of your
life that you spend doing one thing is to the exclusion of
something else that could be more rewarding. Economists call
this opportunity cost. You want to minimize your opportunity
cost by making sure you spend time in places that optimize
your meeting potential. This means fewer bars and nightclubs
(low on all three C's) and more book readings (high on all
three) and coffee houses. You will develop skills over time
to have some measure of success at noisy, hectic venues
as well, but on the balance you are better served by places
that facilitate the connection process, not hinder it. Using
the foregoing rubric, you can assess how worthwhile a given
venue is and apportion your time accordingly...
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